“REALationships”

How many times have you heard someone say, “Let’s be real…,” or “Really?” These state the obvious conclusion that many times we are not being sincerely open and honest with one another. In other words–you are hiding from them.

We all know it is destructive to be outright deceptive or lie. It is also wrong (and relationally harmful) simply to withhold information, feelings, or concerns from those you love. If there is one place where we really need to feel safe enough to totally let down our guard so we can be honest and transparent, it is in our closest relationships.

No one knows who wrote the ancient proverb, “Honesty is the best policy.” But Ephesians 4:25 (AMP) is clear that we should be real, genuine, and honest with each other, “Therefore, rejecting all falsehood [whether lying, defrauding, telling half-truths, spreading rumors, any such as these], speak truth each one with his neighbor, for we are all parts of one another [and we are all parts of the body of Christ].”

A successful “REALationship” is based on mutual honesty, transparency, and respect. Let this be the month you go deeper with your spouse by being a little more open and vulnerable. While it may feel risky, your marriage is a safe environment where you can let down your walls. (If it’s not-work this year to change that by discussing the “5 Love Languages” book together, applying Healthy Relationship Hacks, or agreeing to go to counseling).

Being open and honest will draw you closer together as well as take some burdens off your shoulders that you have been trying to handle alone. God made helpmates for us to share the trials, worries, and struggles. Be thankful and respect this safe space by taking the time to nurture your relationship. 2022 may prove to be better than you ever imagined.